we both know that you love your wife, but you need to remember that it’s about HOW you love her. it’s that whole love-languages thing. you may feel loved when she does something practical for you (like cleaning the kitchen or something), but that doesnt mean she gets all warm and fuzzy when you do the dishes for her. she appreciates it, sure, but she’s gotta feel the love.
it’s the big things as well as the little. pray and read with her. take some initiative. write her love notes. just remember, simply taking care of her needs doesnt equal showing her love. be a blessing to her.