I’ve been realizing lately that I’m not a very good conversationalist. this is actually nothing new. I enjoy being around people, but all too often I never know what to say, and sometimes it drives me crazy. the same goes with Michelle, whom I love dearly but all to often do not communicate to well with.
we’ve been discussing such things, and recently I decided to have “question time.” usually over dinner, in order to get a little conversation started, I’ll come up with a question for her. sometimes the questions aren’t very serious, and really anything goes. it’s been good to get to know eachother a little better, as I’ve realized how complacent I’ve been in this area. the kids have joined in too, so I hope they can learn to be a better conversationalist than I am.
We do this in my family, though on an extremely irregular basis (basically, whenever the spirit moves someone). It’s a dinner table conversation thing and when my daughter was little, she dubbed it “question of the day – might be boring.” So, if you have a question for the group (everyone answers, with the asker answering last), before you ask the question, you have to say, “question-of-the day-might-be-boring,” (which, after all these years, usually comes out quickly, as one long word).
Yup. You gotta talk & listen. It’s one of my 17 little “marriage therapies”. Sounds like you’re finding a way to implement it.
Love ya!
DadW
PS. Been listening to “Simple Songs”. Very enjoyable.